Cheating = Death Penalty

Cheating = Death Penalty
According to Wikipedia,
cheating characteristically is employed to create an unfair advantage,
usually in one's own interest, and often at the expense of others.
I simply can't accept people cheating on my back!
Especially relationship!
I knew ... for most women who are deeply in love, will just forgive and forget!
I used to fall under the same category.
Forgive & Forget?
Really?
Can we actually live with lies and betrayal throughout our marriage?
Nahhh not for me, eventhough I choose to forgive but to forget it is nearly impossible
What is done is done!
The cheating issues will bug me anytime and anywhere.
I forgeive but I will never forget
there is no similarity between human brain and mother board..
we can't delete stuff with just a click
faith in relationship faded in me
We women are sensitive creatures
not that we will be annoyed by little things
believe it or not
we can sense the truth
We don't speak; we don't question
doesn't mean we are stupid!
Yes! if there is a need to admit silliness in women,
that will be caging ourselves in the world of coyotes.
Knowing the danger but still insist to hold onto it
I really admire these women but still I have say we don't deserve all these s**t!
I see no future without trust.
But I learnt to treasure the past and move on.
We are lucky in the sense,
that there is no need to deal with a child issue
we still have a chance to live a better future
Unlike those who are in motherhood,
divorce is not the solution when cheating happens.
After hearing an incident about someone I knew,
I feel so blessed!
Mine is just a mild case and hers is a disaster!
Miss Y juz got married for 2 years
her husband had been cheating on her for a year!
She came from a wealthy family,
innocently fell in love during years in the university
with Mr.S (her husband)
The relationship lasted for 9 years!
Can't believe things happen so rapidly.
Taking Mr. S as her main priority,
she sacrifice a lot
I am glad she is not pregnant
Just had her divorce few weeks ago
Her ex-husband benifits half of the pharmacy after the divorce
such a jerk!

Here is an forward mail from my mom to share with all my buddies:

Breakups: How men deal

From the experiences of some men and ladies they have derived some rules.

Rule#1 : Both men and women are better off having no contact with the ex right after the breakup.

"It's impossible to be friends with an ex!" exclaim many.

My friend Al takes exception to this rule. Al's motto is,
" We're all adults. And adults do stupid things. So let's not blame each other."

Al is the kind of guy who didn't show up when his girlfriend's parents were in town, the one you finally wrote off as a calloused, shallow player. Suddenly, he calls to tell you, breathily, that he's thinking of you. Can you trust him? No matter how sincere he sounds, force yourself to remember the night your co-worker busted him at a club with young Bambi - the same the night he begged o dinner with you because he had the "flu". Among his guy friends, Al is kwnown as "The Hound, and he receives from we men a certain appalled and loathing awe. From you, he should receive bupkis,especially if he comes knocking after a breakup. Tempting as it may be to be wooed by someone you recently separated from, please consider what I've deemed

Rule # 2: The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

So unless you're longing for a steady diet of heartbreak soup, tell your ex when he comes calling that you've got company, and that you'll call him back in a minute. Then don't.
The truth, however, is that most of us are not hounds. No, we're as confused as you are. That explains why, when we're longing for you, we watch hours of football on TV. Or bury ourselves in our work at the office. Or pull out the ice cream. Most of us miss you.

Most of us wish we could give it another chance, and that this time, it would work. So the question you must be wondering is, should you believe him if he calls trying to reconcile?

In short: probably not. In fact, in my experience, the more dramatic his gesture to "make things work this time," the less likely he'll be able to follow through. Here's another hint: When it feels like a desperate move on his part,it is. Desperate moves are not good moves

Of course, everyone knows an exception - stories of love lost then found again that give us hope two years, this guy named Tom was the perfect boyfriend to my friend Christina. When Christina pushed for a bigger commitment, Tom bailed, but six months later, he was calling, writing, email sending flowers. Christina was the best thing that ever happened to him. Having been in therapy three times a week, he'd finally conquered his commitment-phobia. He wanted to be with her more than he wanted anything in his life.

Christina took a chance. They just celebrated their five year anniversary. Was your former relationship like theirs - damaged, but not irreparable? It's certainly tempting to think so. But in experience, it's highly unlikely. Highly,
highly, highly unlikely.

Which leads me to

Rule #3, which is really less a rule than a speech.

To me, this is what a guy wants to hear after a breakup: Honey, I hope someday we can be friends, because in addition to the love and resentment and hard times we went through, I think you 're a great guy. But right now I need to get over you. Maybe in six months or so, we can get together for lunch and laugh about this, but right now, I'm too busy crying." Sad, but dignified. Hurt, but decent. Firm, but gentle. Because the truth is, I've heard about couples who broke up then smoothly transitioned to become friends or even the occasional booty call. I've also heard about unicorns frolicking under the stars in Cer Park. I've heard about this stuff, but - beyond Christina and Tom - I've rarely actually seen it. Delete his emails, his number from your cell phone, and any other reminders that might make you slip back into something that clearly wasn't working the first time around.

That opens the door to the better things that are yet to come.